### What happened?

I was running some load testing related to flux. When creating 10.000 kustomization custom resources (about 1KiB), the k8s apiserver consumes about 1GiB of memory. When checking with 100.000k and 300.00k, the k8s apiserver scales linearly.
When doing the same thing for 1KiB conifgmaps, creating 10.000 resources, the k8s apiserver consumes about 100 MiB of memory. 
Memory pprof for 10k kustomizations:
![10k kustomizations](https://github.com/kubernetes/kubernetes/assets/6106093/de508042-fe96-4ccc-a1ef-a6d535e611fa)

Memory pprof for 10k configmaps:
![image](https://github.com/kubernetes/kubernetes/assets/6106093/d710dae6-4818-460e-9384-b319938df92d)

The memory usage stays the same as long as the resources are existing. After looking a bit into what might force this, it seems that the kube-controller-manager sets up a watch for the kustomizations/configmaps resources.
```json
{"kind":"Event","apiVersion":"audit.k8s.io/v1","level":"Metadata","auditID":"a4187168-a301-4fd1-907a-09da8fc3b587","stage":"RequestReceived","requestURI":"/apis/kustomize.toolkit.fluxcd.io/v1/kustomizations?allowWatchBookmarks=true\u0026resourceVersion=727\u0026timeout=5m37s\u0026timeoutSeconds=337\u0026watch=true","verb":"watch","user":{"username":"system:kube-controller-manager","groups":["system:authenticated"]},"sourceIPs":["172.18.0.2"],"userAgent":"kube-controller-manager/v1.29.2 (linux/amd64) kubernetes/4b8e819/metadata-informers","objectRef":{"resource":"kustomizations","apiGroup":"kustomize.toolkit.fluxcd.io","apiVersion":"v1"},"requestReceivedTimestamp":"2024-04-29T14:33:32.979279Z","stageTimestamp":"2024-04-29T14:33:32.979279Z"}
```

This is needed because garbage collector that runs in kube-controller-manager needs to walk the ownership reference map, and it wants to do that in cache: https://github.com/kubernetes/kubernetes/blob/a9eded097d092350a9f8de80a153b3f96841f012/pkg/controller/garbagecollector/garbagecollector.go#L253

### What did you expect to happen?

Expectation would've been that there is similar memory usage for in-tree and custom resources.

Also, the current garbage collector seems to force k8s-apiserver to cache the full contents of etcd. Is that a correct implementation?

### How can we reproduce it (as minimally and precisely as possible)?

1. Create a cluster
`kind create cluster`

2. Add the kustomize CRD
`curl -L https://raw.githubusercontent.com/fluxcd/kustomize-controller/main/config/crd/bases/kustomize.toolkit.fluxcd.io_kustomizations.yaml | kubectl apply -f -`

3. Create 10k of the following
```yaml
apiVersion: kustomize.toolkit.fluxcd.io/v1
kind: Kustomization
metadata:
  name: podinfo
spec:
  interval: 10m
  targetNamespace: default
  sourceRef:
    kind: GitRepository
    name: podinfo
  path: "./kustomize"
  prune: true
  timeout: 1m
  patches:
  - patch: |-
      apiVersion: apps/v1
      kind: Deployment
      metadata:
        name: not-used
      spec:
        template:
          metadata:
            annotations:
              cluster-autoscaler.kubernetes.io/safe-to-evict: "true"        
    target:
      kind: Deployment
      labelSelector: "app.kubernetes.io/part-of=my-app"
  - patch: |
      - op: add
        path: /spec/template/spec/securityContext
        value:
          runAsUser: 10000
          fsGroup: 1337
      - op: add
        path: /spec/template/spec/containers/0/securityContext
        value:
          readOnlyRootFilesystem: true
          allowPrivilegeEscalation: false
          runAsNonRoot: true
          capabilities:
            drop:
              - ALL        
    target:
      kind: Deployment
      name: podinfo
      namespace: apps
```

### Anything else we need to know?



### Kubernetes version

<details>

```console
$ kubectl version
# paste output here
```

</details>


### Cloud provider

<details>
kind
</details>


### OS version

<details>

```console
# On Linux:
$ cat /etc/os-release
# paste output here
$ uname -a
# paste output here

# On Windows:
C:\> wmic os get Caption, Version, BuildNumber, OSArchitecture
# paste output here
```

</details>


### Install tools

<details>

</details>


### Container runtime (CRI) and version (if applicable)

<details>

</details>


### Related plugins (CNI, CSI, ...) and versions (if applicable)

<details>

</details>

Watch request for CRs costs about 10-15x more memory in k8s-apiserver than in-tree resource watches
This is a GitHub Issue
repo:kubernetes
owner:kubernetes
Title : Watch request for CRs costs about 10-15x more memory in k8s-apiserver than in-tree resource watches
Issue date:

--- start body ---
### What happened?

I was running some load testing related to flux. When creating 10.000 kustomization custom resources (about 1KiB), the k8s apiserver consumes about 1GiB of memory. When checking with 100.000k and 300.00k, the k8s apiserver scales linearly.
When doing the same thing for 1KiB conifgmaps, creating 10.000 resources, the k8s apiserver consumes about 100 MiB of memory. 
Memory pprof for 10k kustomizations:
![10k kustomizations](https://github.com/kubernetes/kubernetes/assets/6106093/de508042-fe96-4ccc-a1ef-a6d535e611fa)

Memory pprof for 10k configmaps:
![image](https://github.com/kubernetes/kubernetes/assets/6106093/d710dae6-4818-460e-9384-b319938df92d)

The memory usage stays the same as long as the resources are existing. After looking a bit into what might force this, it seems that the kube-controller-manager sets up a watch for the kustomizations/configmaps resources.
```json
{"kind":"Event","apiVersion":"audit.k8s.io/v1","level":"Metadata","auditID":"a4187168-a301-4fd1-907a-09da8fc3b587","stage":"RequestReceived","requestURI":"/apis/kustomize.toolkit.fluxcd.io/v1/kustomizations?allowWatchBookmarks=true\u0026resourceVersion=727\u0026timeout=5m37s\u0026timeoutSeconds=337\u0026watch=true","verb":"watch","user":{"username":"system:kube-controller-manager","groups":["system:authenticated"]},"sourceIPs":["172.18.0.2"],"userAgent":"kube-controller-manager/v1.29.2 (linux/amd64) kubernetes/4b8e819/metadata-informers","objectRef":{"resource":"kustomizations","apiGroup":"kustomize.toolkit.fluxcd.io","apiVersion":"v1"},"requestReceivedTimestamp":"2024-04-29T14:33:32.979279Z","stageTimestamp":"2024-04-29T14:33:32.979279Z"}
```

This is needed because garbage collector that runs in kube-controller-manager needs to walk the ownership reference map, and it wants to do that in cache: https://github.com/kubernetes/kubernetes/blob/a9eded097d092350a9f8de80a153b3f96841f012/pkg/controller/garbagecollector/garbagecollector.go#L253

### What did you expect to happen?

Expectation would've been that there is similar memory usage for in-tree and custom resources.

Also, the current garbage collector seems to force k8s-apiserver to cache the full contents of etcd. Is that a correct implementation?

### How can we reproduce it (as minimally and precisely as possible)?

1. Create a cluster
`kind create cluster`

2. Add the kustomize CRD
`curl -L https://raw.githubusercontent.com/fluxcd/kustomize-controller/main/config/crd/bases/kustomize.toolkit.fluxcd.io_kustomizations.yaml | kubectl apply -f -`

3. Create 10k of the following
```yaml
apiVersion: kustomize.toolkit.fluxcd.io/v1
kind: Kustomization
metadata:
  name: podinfo
spec:
  interval: 10m
  targetNamespace: default
  sourceRef:
    kind: GitRepository
    name: podinfo
  path: "./kustomize"
  prune: true
  timeout: 1m
  patches:
  - patch: |-
      apiVersion: apps/v1
      kind: Deployment
      metadata:
        name: not-used
      spec:
        template:
          metadata:
            annotations:
              cluster-autoscaler.kubernetes.io/safe-to-evict: "true"        
    target:
      kind: Deployment
      labelSelector: "app.kubernetes.io/part-of=my-app"
  - patch: |
      - op: add
        path: /spec/template/spec/securityContext
        value:
          runAsUser: 10000
          fsGroup: 1337
      - op: add
        path: /spec/template/spec/containers/0/securityContext
        value:
          readOnlyRootFilesystem: true
          allowPrivilegeEscalation: false
          runAsNonRoot: true
          capabilities:
            drop:
              - ALL        
    target:
      kind: Deployment
      name: podinfo
      namespace: apps
```

### Anything else we need to know?



### Kubernetes version

<details>

```console
$ kubectl version
# paste output here
```

</details>


### Cloud provider

<details>
kind
</details>


### OS version

<details>

```console
# On Linux:
$ cat /etc/os-release
# paste output here
$ uname -a
# paste output here

# On Windows:
C:\> wmic os get Caption, Version, BuildNumber, OSArchitecture
# paste output here
```

</details>


### Install tools

<details>

</details>


### Container runtime (CRI) and version (if applicable)

<details>

</details>


### Related plugins (CNI, CSI, ...) and versions (if applicable)

<details>

</details>

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